– A Process for Better Patterns and a Better You!
Is Finding Peace and Happiness What You Really Want? If so, then we encourage you to C.L.I.M.B. your way to the end of this piece.
C ∙ Calm the Mind
“The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.”
― Marcus Aurelius
Contrary to popular belief, we would argue that most of us likely have nothing to worry about. If you disagree, then let us invite you to at least consider that allowing yourself to become overwhelmed by anxiety, weakened by stress, and broken by negative thinking patterns is not an optimal way to function. If history has taught us anything it is that things have a way of figuring themselves out, and while we may not necessarily always be satisfied with the outcome, we are almost always given an opportunity to learn something that provides us with a chance to become stronger and/or wiser. This typically adds more value and meaning to our lives. That being said, we maintain that for most of us, we do not have anything to worry about, especially if we can deeply appreciate that our basic human needs — air, water, food, or seeking shelter particularly from lions, tigers, and bears wanting to kill us — are no longer an issue. Ahhh! [sigh of relief] So, take a deep breath, or 2, or 3…you get the idea [inhale for 3 seconds, hold for 3 seconds, and exhale for 3 seconds]. Remind yourself lovingly, gently, and consistently (and don’t forget to accompany that reminder with that important thing called the breath) that you likely — have nothing to worry about. Create a relaxing, calming, self-direction practice of some type into your daily routine — now. It will be one of the simplest and rewarding investments you make!
L ∙ Learn to Release
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.”
― Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now
Learn to let go of those limiting, self-defeating, and relationship-sabotaging beliefs concerning the past. Recognize that whatever beliefs you’re holding onto about — past relationships that didn’t work out the way you would’ve liked, not hitting your goals, or feeling that you may have missed out on something — are likely creating a fear that is clouding your vision about the opportunities in front of you at this very moment. F.E.A.R. is often referred to as False Events Appearing Real and for good reason. The operative word being FALSE or – not true. Learn how to let go of the fiction you create (as a result of worrying about the past and allowing that to be the reason you’re preoccupied with the future) and practice living in the NOW, and you may begin to watch your fears slowly slip away.
I ∙ Implement Positive Pathways
“The phenomenon, known as neuroplasticity, means that we can change the structure of our adult brains and even our behavior at whatever age we are just by intentionally focusing our attention.”
— Goldie Hawn, 10 Mindful Minutes: Giving Our Children–and Ourselves–the Social and Emotional Skills to Reduce Stress and Anxiety for Healthier, Happy Lives
Immediately implement a practice of focusing on the positive and feeling it. We know, you’ve heard this said at least a few thousand times. For those of you that have adopted a practice and stuck with it, we congratulate you. Our educated guess is you’re experiencing some benefits. For those of you that haven’t, we can’t stress how important it is to put this into practice. Why? Well, neuroplasticity, is in some way like saying your brain is essentially a muscle, and the more you train it to do what you want, the more efficient it becomes at doing just that. If you aren’t training it, then WHO IS? There are a number of effective ways to do this, and here are a few ideas: create a gratitude list regularly, remember what if feels like when you taste your favorite food, and/or spend some time in nature doing what you enjoy most!
M ∙ Maintenance
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit.”
Practice makes perfect they said, and they had a point, especially where it involves neuroplasticity. There seems to be little, if any, debate about the benefits of practice as it concerns getting better at something. Not much more needs to be said other than: repetition is key.
B ∙ Believe and Build the Life You Want and Deserve
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.”
― Henry Ford
What are you believing? Are you quitting before you even get started? Are you making excuses why you don’t need or deserve to get better? Are you not clear on something? What story are you telling yourself? Whatever it is you’re believing may very well be why you’re not seeing the results you want and deserve. The good news is, with a few small and consistent changes, you could edit a few lines in your story in no time. And, well, that could just change — EVERYTHING!
At Pathwaves clients are able to adopt these tools, learn these skills, and feel the life-changing benefits often in a matter of a week. If we can help, please let us know.
The Pathwaves Team