12 May A Simple Guide to Sustainable Mental Health
“What hurt could it do thee if thou wouldst let it pass and make no account of it? Could it even as much as pluck one hair from thy head?” – Thomas A’ Kempis
Beliefs, and how they are applied, profoundly affect us and seriously impact our lives. You may have heard “You are limited by your beliefs,” or “Your limiting beliefs are holding you back.” While these statements are true, they do not tell the whole story.
Pathwaves founder G. Cole has been helping people improve their lives since the year 2000. Over the past 21 years, he has developed a set of simple basics –the “ABC’s” – to sustained mental health. These building blocks form the foundation, and are so simple that even kindergarten age children are able to follow them.
The “ABC’s” to Sustainable and Stable Mental Health
The word “should” and the idea behind it creates an amazing amount of pain and anguish. So many believe that others “should” behave a certain way. This belief is often tied to a perceived motive for behaviors, which is then applied to both others and to oneself.
This is a dangerous formula for “wrong doing”, disappointment, resentment, anger, pain, and sadness. The simple fix for “should-ing” all over yourself and others (which can get very messy) is acceptance. It is easier to accept that most people are doing the best they can to survive.
If we learn to accept all things as they are, whether are not they are happening the way we want them to, we learn that the vast majority of the time these circumstances are not going to harm us or affect us negatively. Then life becomes so much easier to live.
At Pathwaves, we identify the neurological patterns which may contribute to a lack of acceptance, and then help you make desired shifts so that you may function at your optimum. Through our years of experience, we have discovered that a large percentage of those who come to us wanting help to better their lives (how they are sleeping, feeling and functioning) often have excess amounts of neurological energy in the lower frequency bands.
Most people who struggle with “control issues” are not happy. On the other hand, most people who accept life as it is, believe that all moments in life are co-created, and show up as the best version of themselves report a higher sense of satisfaction, fulfillment, and joy.
In their drive to survive, others may “step on our toes”, and actually do us damage. And this often affects our mental health. In order to maintain stable mental health, we encourage you to first acknowledge and fully feel your emotions. Then, communicate with the one who harmed you if it will help the relationship, or with someone else if that relationship is still too fragile. Lastly, we teach you how to forgive the people, places and things involved, which often include forgiving yourself. Forgiveness is the key that opens the door to true peace and healing.
C) Enjoy Living
If we look for the goodness and reasons to be grateful, we will surely find them. This is a strong foundation for enjoying life. If we look for the negative and are always quick to point out what’s wrong, we detract from our own ability to be happy. This is a matter of shifting perspective away from what’s wrong, and strengthening the focus on what’s going well.
We all have the option to view life from a “get to” versus a “have to” attitude. It simply requires a bit of practice.
Mental Health Awareness Month
May is Mental Health Awareness Month, which inspired us to get back to the basics as they apply to sustainable mental health:
A) accept things as they are; B) show up the best we can and forgive the wrongs; and C) find the good in all things, feel grateful for them, and celebrate.
Adopting these beliefs and operating from that mindset allows our lives to be filled with joyous celebration.
If you’d like to learn how you can support your personal growth through our methodology, we are here to help. Schedule a free 30-minute consultation today.
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